So where did we leave off?
Ah, yes!
I remember, I was telling you about our schedule transitioning for this year.
And promised to give you the update.
Ok, here it is.
It
Has
Been
Tough.
The end.
Ok, here is more.
Yes, for some reason this year it has been tougher….
Reason 1.I have some theories that I think cover it but the truth is, it was longer that she was without a good base of a schedule because a couple weeks prior to the actual end of her school year, one or more pieces of her weekly schedule got adjusted/moved or cancelled. And this made the chess game of scheduling start sooner than normal. Challenging and a work to be flexible.
Reason 2: Elizabeth is quite observant and feels things 10x more than the next person and she internalizes them. So, when something stressful happens to someone she loves(and it did, several things really) she feels it and it can make HER feel stressed, and this stressed feeling leads to her becoming disorganized. Her dyspraxia requires a good deal of focus to do well and be independent in her days and because her brain is busy dealing with these emotions, her brain isn’t fully on her tasks, and she starts to struggle.
Then I start to “help” and tell her what to do.
Then she starts to very much not like this and has emotions.
Then we both have emotions
Then she has emotions from those emotions…
Reason 3. Her beloved sister, Emily, is moving close to home soon and while this is the most wonderful thing, Elizabeth asked such a remarkable question. What do we do next? This lead to such a great conversation with Elizabeth that centered on her deep concerns of being “left again”. We talked about life, heaven, loving people, letting go and trusting God and on and on.
So, as you can see there is a lot going on in the head of sweet Elizabeth that has nothing to do with transitions but everything to do with the natural cadence of life and its changes.
She and I made a plan to talk EVERY night. To go over her feelings, whether good or bad, happy or sad, and she can ask questions about things that may make her nervous or stressed.
Each day
No Skipping
No matter what.
I can tell you that this has been the biggest positive change we have made in a long time. I know we have had our chats before, but this is different. She leads it. And it is about what she wants to talk about.
So yes, it has been a tough month and a half, but the gift was that we found something that helps the deeper piece of her.
I love how God made her, and I love her love.
I am still learning about her- 27 years in.
Our kids are really amazing and learning how to support them as they grow is our learning curve.
See you next month.